The drama has been reignited! And it is ‘burning as it goes’.
Instagram user Amber Ray, socialite Amira, Amira’s ex-husband Jimal Roho Safi and Amber Ray’s boyfriend, Kennedy Rapudo, are making media waves once again in regards to all their ‘love’ entanglements that stemmed from affairs to relationships.
Let’s rehash in a summary on the latest happenings.
Jimal, a businessman, was married to Amira when he began an affair relationship with Amber Ray. This involvement led to significant tension, with Amira accusing Amber of being a homewrecker- and Amber did everything under the sun to brag and display this relationship online as a probable slap in the face to Amira who had been suffering immensely at the time. The situation escalated when the women confronted each other at a Syokimau residence, resulting in a heated exchange that was broadcasted live on Instagram by one of the women.
Amber later reflected on this period, expressing that she was allegedly misled about her position in Jimal’s life, believing she was a second wife. She conveyed feelings of betrayal upon discovering the truth. However, netizens have been pulling out receipts to show Amber new Jimal was married and even went about boasting that her’s was the second wife’s house (nyumba ndogo).
What made things worse was that this was not the first marriage Amber Ray was a third party in, it was the second after getting involved with a renowned Member of Parliament and also engaging in online wars with his wife too.
Following the dissolution of these relationships, Amber entered into a partnership with businessman Kennedy Rapudo. In a recent online interview, Rapudo criticized Jimal for not effectively managing the discord between Amira and Amber. He emphasized that, as the man in the relationship, Jimal should have taken a leadership role to prevent the public disputes.
In response, Jimal dismissed Rapudo’s remarks, labeling him as idle and unworthy of attention. He asserted that a better man wouldn’t discuss others and suggested that Rapudo’s comments reflected his lack of occupation.
Now here’s my unsolicited opinion on this…
Men must stay out of their women’s battles unless it becomes a matter of life or death. The ongoing war of words between Jimal Roho Safi and Kennedy Rapudo over past drama involving Amber Ray and Amira is yet another example of men unnecessarily inserting themselves into conflicts that aren’t theirs to fight.
But should men really be engaging in online spats over past relationships? Absolutely not. If anything, this behavior only makes them look insecure and unnecessarily petty.
When Jimal and Rapudo started exchanging jabs over the past feud between Amber Ray and Amira, it was clear that neither man was defending a genuine cause—this was purely an ego clash. Instead of focusing on their current lives and relationships, they chose to rekindle old drama that had already played out in the public eye. The truth is, no self-assured man should feel the need to insert himself into his partner’s past battles. Women are fully capable of handling their conflicts, and dragging things out online only adds fuel to a fire that should have burned out long ago.
Beyond making themselves look childish, men who engage in online disputes over their women’s past conflicts end up giving more power to those situations. By speaking up, Jimal and Rapudo have not only kept the past drama alive but have also positioned themselves as active participants in a feud that should have ended with the original parties involved. Instead of focusing on being providers, protectors and leaders in their own homes, they’ve turned into online sensations, responding to social media noise rather than building their own peace.
Ultimately, men need to understand that maturity isn’t in proving a point to the public—it’s in knowing when to walk away. Real power lies in silence, in refusing to be baited into unnecessary battles, and in focusing on what truly matters: their families, businesses and personal growth.
Rapudo and Jimal’s emerging back-and-forth should serve as a lesson to men everywhere—sometimes, the best move is no move at all. Let the past stay in the past, and let women fight their own battles if they choose to. Otherwise, you risk becoming part of a circus that wasn’t meant for you in the first place.
