Have you noticed the boldness younger men, comrades if you will, have been displaying lately in approaching older women and shooting their shots?
Yes, I have too.
Once upon a time, dating was simple- age gaps mattered and younger men respectfully kept their distance from older women, unless they were family friends or mentors. But in today’s Kenyan dating scene, something has shifted. Gen Z (in and out of university) and younger millennials, all known as comrades, are approaching older women with the kind of confidence that can only be described as audacious.
They slide into DMs, flirt shamelessly in supermarkets and even offer to “take care” of women who, just a few years ago, would have been considered out of their league. What’s fueling this sudden boldness?
Let’s discuss it… more like, let’s hypothesize what this audacity is all about.
Could it be that the soft life economy is hard on comrades and they believe older women are more stable financially and worth being seduced into being sponsors? I’d like to think so! With sponsors securing the attention of their agemates, many comrades have flipped the script. Instead of chasing broke, unavailable young women, they’re opting for financially stable and emotionally mature older women. The logic? It’s probably, “If an older man can get a younger woman, why can’t I go for an older woman?” The math is mathing for them.
Another hypothesis? Comrades probably think older women are the new ‘It girls’, right? I say this because unlike their younger counterparts, older women don’t stress over blue ticks, don’t play games, and know exactly what they want. They bring confidence, emotional intelligence and- let’s be real- financial independence. In a world where ghosting and heartbreak are the norm, won’t some comrades see older women as a refreshing escape from toxic Gen Z dating drama?
Also, could it be that social media has brought about an age of unapologetic flirting that gives comrades unparalleled audacity? X, Facebook, WhatsApp, TikTok, Instagram and Snapchat have made it clear…that age is nothing but just a number. Women have openly been embracing their prime years, posting stunning glow-ups and flexing their success on social media apps and meanwhile, have younger men have been watching, liking and sliding into DMs with zero fear? The era of shame is probably over, right? A 22-year-old will confidently comment “Mumama, can I be your problem?” under a 35-year-old’s vacation picture without hesitation with the guts to match…
So then, akina wamama– ahem, millennials- do you find this interesting enough to pique your curiosity in dating comrades? Would you find their attention flattering or dismiss it as an unserious distraction? Do you think comrades are genuinely interested in you or they could jus tbe hunting for their next easiest soft life ticket?
What do you think? Are comrades simply vibing with a new dating dynamic or is this just another trend in Nairobi’s ever-evolving love scene?
